A Woman to Woman Article
A-D-O-R-E: I Promise to Love and Show Adoration
Advice for marriages—new and old: Show your husband he has authority in your life. Show him respect. If he is not a leader, remember that this is a new role for him to perform in his life for God. Help him by showing him with godly actions (1 Peter 3:1). Don’t be a continual test on your life-long partner, but lovingly and willingly put yourself under his control, just as you are doing for Jesus Christ each day. Being a leader does not come naturally, but it is a responsibility men must learn to fulfill for God. Always keep in mind that everything you do for your husband, you are doing for God.
Many who marry out of love, immediately become their spouse’s adversary. This should not be. You, as women, are to hold up your end as the perfect example, and be an inspiration for your husband.
Do things for your husband that you know will please him. Plan ahead. Put him first in everything you do. Never, never, never insist on your own way. Live only to please or be pleasing to your husband. Do not correct your husband. If he makes a statement, never take the opposite point of view; but rather, be diplomatic, kind and understanding.
Guard the door of your mouth and don’t let just anything pour forth (Psalm 141:3). Control yourself—control your emotions—control your mouth. A big mouth lets every thought fly forth, whether it be good or evil. Practice having a quiet mouth and be a woman of few, meaningful, godly words (Prov. 31:26).
God’s word says the more you talk, the greater the chance that evil will come out of your mouth (Prov. 10:19). Never forget that.
Never allow yourself to harbor hurt feelings or resentments of any kind. Maintain a totally compassionate heart that is full of love for God. Matthew 6:12 says: “Forgive us our trespasses [faults and sins], as we forgive those who trespass against us [minute by minute, day by day]” (Matt. 6:14-15).
Organize your life. Just as the husband must learn to be the leader of the household, the wife must learn to be neat and tidy. A man loves to come home to greet his lovely wife in a lovely setting. Prepare for your husband’s arrival. Stop living a life filled with excuses. Don’t allow yourself to greet him with your hair a mess or unpresentable in any way. Let him know he was blessed when he married you, instead of giving him the chance to regret it.
When two young people get married, they normally have a lot of bad habits they drag along with them into the marriage. An example of this would be leaving unclean clothes strewn all over. Let’s face it, many young people live like pigs and their rooms are like a pig sty.
Organize your life. Pick up after your husband and never complain. Never expect appreciation or recognition for what you do for him. That’s evil. Do what you do for the Lord. He sees; He repays; He rewards (Matt. 5:16).
Respect your husband; respect your neighbor; respect yourself. And, respect God and His word which tell you how to live, so you may live long, happy, full lives. Respect means to show honor. Try not to say or do any wrong to your husband or to anyone—ever. Try not to speak wrong of anyone—ever. Show honor and respect to your relatives and parents. Be kind to all; show love to all; do good to all; say good of all. Pure love does not keep track of evil done against itself by others (1 Cor. 13:5; 16:14; Titus 2:7).
Enjoy each other; live to please each other to glorify God. Totally give yourself to each other sexually, as God intended when you are married. You belong to him and he belongs to you - you are now one flesh (Matt. 19:6). Be of the attitude: “What is your pleasure?” or, “How may I please you?” as long as it is within God’s will (Prov. 5:18-19). Take time for each other. Take time to cuddle with each other; kiss each other; touch each other. Walk together; talk together; have fun together. This is the whole purpose for your relationship.
How you treat your husband is how you treat yourself. Whatever you do will eventually come back to you (Gal. 6:7; Prov. 11:25; 12:14). If you are living selfishly, you will never see or be aware of your problems or faults. You will come across as a holy martyr, when it is really your evil ways returning to you as a curse.
Prepare yourself to suffer for doing what is right (1 Peter 3:17). You were called for this very purpose, so Christ’s nature can be manifested in you (Gal. 4:19). Shape up; grow up and be spiritually mature. Then you will experience real joy—lasting joy. Jesus came that your joy may be made full (John 15:11). That happens when you are fully conformed to God’s Ways and leave your old ways behind (2 Cor. 13:11).
The name of this article is “ADORE.” When you adore your husband in these ways, you are showing adoration towards the Lord and His Ways. This is how to please the Lord every day. You are also helping to create a marriage that is an example for others to follow, and you are helping your husband be the best he can be. Through your continual love and patience, he will find the strength to endure, and with a loving wife like you, it will be much easier to overcome those difficult areas in his life. Together with the Lord’s help, you can both make it!